Dad seemed to be getting more and more tired - excessively so. He is diabetic so I thought that maybe his sugar was off. I generally phoned daily to check on Mom's status and when I called on the Saturday, the Personal Care Worker told me that she thought something was wrong with Dad. He was sleeping all morning and didn't seem right.
I called my older sister who went over to the house to see what was happening. I would have gone (and eventually did end up going anyway) but my foot was hurting so badly I could barely walk let alone drive.
My sister called the ambulance and Dad was admitted. Tests showed that was bleeding from both sides of his brain and needed immediate brain surgery, which he would not consent to..."I'll think about it" and "Ask me in 2 days" were his responses.
Mom could not be left on her own so me and my 2 sisters had to take turns being at the house. It nearly killed us. We didn't get any sleep because my mother called out at all hours. We were exhausted running between the hospital and sorting out the finances which my father assured us were fine...they weren't.
We took immediate action to get my mother into a home. We didn't know how long Dad would be in the hospital or if he would even come out of it. We were all becoming non-functional taking care of my mother. There were all kinds of signs telling us that the current situation was not going to work like my cat getting sick and needing to go to the vet for care because of the stress of me not being there and she is a cat that requires constant care because of physical problems.
I was supposed to relieve my sister on the Sunday so she could go back to work and my car's engine light came on so I couldn't do that. The cost of running to my parent's was phenomenal - we all live 1 hour driving time from where my parents live.
Anytime we had doubts about following through and putting Mom in a home, something happened to confirm it needed to be done (just a little help from our Guides to ensure we followed through).
Read Part 4 tomorrow.
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